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      If you want to have a good loving relationship with your children, teaching them that love can survive in the face  major conflicts, you`ll need to do something different. Do the same things and you will get the same results. More struggles.

                                                Your Choice!



          The Blame Game  - Are you going to play?                                                                       

        Imagine you, your ex-wife and your children are contestants on a TV show called, " The Blame Game ".  We find that the master of ceremonies of the game is Jerry [ point your ] Finger, who is encouraging you and your ex. to express your resentment at one another.  The crowd becomes energized with angry exchange. They want more. We have no reluctance to point out how our  former partner has hurt us. The  Blame Game is off and running.  It has developed a life of its own and its purpose is the destruction of our loving family.

              Here`s  how the game works.

First - You and her start with the belief that it`s  completely the other persons fault.

Next- Neither one of you are going to take it anymore, you`ve had enough.

Finally - When the other person says or does something disrespectful, unkind or mean, you`ll come back at them with your own mean and angry response.

      You probably know this game. Here how you keep score. With every angry response, your children receive one or more dysfunctional points.  As the game continues, you and the mother become more  resentful and angry at each other. Your children are feeling your anger and are taken in all the negativity. They are beginning to absorb their parent`s  negative family heritage. The more anger we have, the greater  the number of points that our children will receive.  As the problems between you and her continue, so does the game. We are, through The Blame  Game, raising children with large amounts of points and an abundance of problems  that they will need to over come as adults.  Our success  with the game will cause them to unlearn what we have taught them.  They may even  experience a fail marriage, fellowing our example and teachings.  You, as the Father, can only be the true  winner of this game, by not playing.

The game is rigged against your family.

       There  is a plan  for our lives, we are not here as a random event.  We all have a life that is purpose driven. As a Father, we are here to learn about ourselves, so as to be a more effective example and teacher. We are required in this capacity to face who we are as a person. To take our shortcomings, make them our strength and by doing so, we will become the Father we know we can be.

           The goal of this book is to help you get of the Blame Game Show. Reign as a contestant. The price  to your family is to high. The way we  can do that is by changing our habits of thinking and feeling. We need to alter the way we think about the mother of our children. I`m sure your children can learn despite  us, but for better or worse, we will be their example. In order to gain the greatest benefit from this information, you`ll be asked to write on your thoughts and feelings, keep a daily journal. This will help guide you in understanding yourself better.

                                                      LET THE FATHERING BEGAN